The difference between love & lust *LadyYoly.com

While in my 20's, I met a guy several years older than me who I was attracted to in an exciting and powerful can’t-eat-can’t-sleep kind of way.

If he walked by or made eye contact with me, I would get a rush throughout my body that would make my cheeks flush and my knees buckle. With every text message he sent me, I would get a flutter of excitement in my stomach.

                                                                                                                                                During this time, I assumed the intensity of these feelings was a good sign ― isn’t this what the early stages of falling in love are supposed to feel like? Now, nearly a two decades later, I realize I was just completely infatuated with this guy and that those intense feelings had a lot more to do with lust than love.

In the 1990s, a team of researchers led by biological anthropologist Helen Fisher examined the science behind lust and love. They divided romantic love into three distinct categories: lust, attraction and attachment, each associated with their own brain chemistry. They found that lust, which is fueled by a yearning for sexual gratification, releases hormones like testosterone and estrogen that increase a person’s libido.

Attraction describes an infatuation that goes beyond sex ― for example, you can’t stop thinking about someone, you find yourself daydreaming about getting to know them and spending time with them, etc. That’s when neurotransmitters such as dopamine and norepinephrine are released, which can lead to feelings of elation, loss of appetite and decreased need for sleep.  The third category is attachment or “companionate love.” When compared to lust and attraction, attachment tends to be more secure, grounded and lasting. It releases bonding hormones such as oxytocin and vasopressin. Brain chemistry aside, how can you tell if the sensations you’re feeling are more aligned with love, or with the more fleeting lust and attraction? To better understand some of the differences between them, we reached out to relationship experts. Here’s what they told us:

Lust is about a physical connection. Love is about an emotional connection.

“Lust feels like you intensely want to have sex with someone. Love feels like you want to have sex with someone and be emotionally close to them, too. Love means you want to spend time with your partner and listen to his or her needs and emotions to feel connected. You also are interested in meeting your beloved’s friends. Lust means you’re more interested in having sex than having intimate conversations or meeting the person’s friends.” ― Dr. Judith Orloff, psychiatrist and author of The Empath’s Survival Guide

Lust is impulsive. Love takes time.

“Love is rooted in delayed gratification, while lust is rooted in instant pleasure. Lust feels like sprinting; love feels like a marathon. Love means acceptance; lust means indulgence.” ― Janet Brito, a psychologist and sex therapist at the Center for Sexual and Reproductive Health.

 

Lust skims the surface. Love goes deeper.

“Lust is a state of mind that focuses on body parts, seduction, power, fantasy and excitement. Love is risky and scary on an emotional level. You’re becoming very real and vulnerable with them, trusting them with your fears and hopes, sharing stories of shame and pride, hope and disappointment, and really letting yourself be known. Love is letting your guard down and granting your partner access to areas you don’t even like to visit.” ― Ryan Howes, clinical psychologist

Lust is short and sudden. Love is slow and steady.

“Love means hanging on for the long-distance ride. When lust is the primary driver, partners can literally be in and out in one night. Love is rooted in a deep commitment and endurance. Lust is rooted in a longing of the loins and often results in unsatisfying hook-ups. Love is a comforting pilot light that, if fed properly, can fuel a couple for a lifetime. Lust can lead to a roaring bonfire of sex, but sex without a real relationship quickly turns to ashes.” ― Iris Krasnow, author of Sex After: Women Share How Intimacy Changes As Life Changes

Love increases with time. Lust decreases with time.

“Love is rooted in attachment and bonding that grows over time. Lust is rooted in intense desire and fades over time. Lust feels like a rollercoaster of emotions driven by biological forces and activated by our reward center, driven by desire for pleasure and connection. Love feels like the desire and need for attachment with biological, sociocultural, and psychological factors that determine its development.” ― Shannon Chavez, psychologist and sex therapist

 

Lust is about you. Love is about them.

“When you lust for someone, you must have them. You need their body or presence in your life as if your life depends on it. Love is not possessive, though. You’ll certainly want someone you love in your life, but if their best life is found apart from you, then you want that for them. When you find that their well-being is a higher priority than your cravings, you’re in love.” ― Howes

Ultimately, the difference between lust, attraction, and love lies in what remains after the initial excitement fades. Chemistry may spark a connection, but emotional intimacy, trust, consistency, and genuine care are what help love grow. The next time you feel those butterflies, ask yourself: Am I drawn to the excitement of this person, or am I building a connection with who they truly are? Because while lust may ignite the flame and attraction may keep you thinking about someone, love is what helps keep the fire burning.

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How to manifest your desire quickly

How to manifest your desire quickly and efficiently


It's not magic it's real.





Learning how to manifest on purpose is easier than you think. In fact, the real secret is, once you learn how, it’s ridiculously easy!

The following ‘rules’ can be applied to anything you desire to bring into your life.

By Life Coach / Psychic Lady Yoly 

Owner Of www.LadyYoly.com

First of all make sure you take the "stress" out of it...

Why take manifesting seriously? You already know the value of hard work, but you don’t have to make such a big deal out of manifesting. Think of it as a game, as a pure game of pretending like you did when you were a child.

Approach manifesting from the perspective of play, delight, fun… To take your needy, desperate, fearful and lack-based vibes out of the equation.

A child’s imagination knows no bounds.

Unfortunately, as adults we have placed some pretty hefty limitations on our imaginations, for no good reason except that other people said so – for example, “you can’t get ahead without a college education” or “it takes money to make money” or “it’s not what you know but who you know.” Says who?

Tell that nonsense to the many self-made millionaires who started out with no education, no money, nothing but a lot of imagination and desire.

Try these principles of manifestation.

Believe what you see in your mind

Whatever you want already exists in your imagination, doesn’t it? Therefore it is just as real as any other idea you have ever had that came to fruition. Play with the belief that what you want is already waiting for you. You’ve placed the order, now you’re on your way to pick it up. What have you got to lose? 

Believe in the power of your thoughts and emotions

You know how good it feels to have what you want. Embody that feeling and infuse your visualization with its powerful vibration. It’s all good. Relax and have fun.
Believe in the ‘Impossible’

Have fun with this and leave the logical mind at home. This is about using the power of thoughts, emotions and your intentions. You don’t need to worry if or how it will manifest.

Throw yourself into it

A child puts him- or herself completely into their imaginary world. Put yourself in yours!

Don’t worry, be happy

Positive vibrations attract positive vibrations. Most of us think, “I’ll be happy when… (I find that special someone, land that deal, get a new house, etc.)…” sure you will, but will your current energetic vibration attract those things you want?

Are you vibrating “I don’t think I deserve that, even though it would be really nice…” instead of “I’m so happy, and more goodness is on its way!

Which one is better: “I’m in love with this dream, but I don’t know how to make it happen!” or “I’m in love with this dream and I just love how it’s all coming together for me!”

Believe in your vision! It is already real!

Worry, fear, anxiety, doubt or resistance in the form of limiting beliefs pollute and dilute your vibration. Remember happiness will make you a magnet for what you desire.

Fill yourself with positive emotions. Fill every cell with love, happiness, joy, peace… and let that light, bright energy radiate outward to attract what you want! The more you amplify positive emotions, the higher and more powerful your vibe will be!

See what you want to see

Visualization is a powerful vibration booster. Physical reality isn’t far behind the wonderful ideas you plant in your imagination – IF you water them with love, enthusiasm, unwavering belief and lots of happiness.

Imagine it really is this easy to manifest anything you want

We’ve all been brought up believing that hard work is the only way to get what we want, but that’s just not true.

Money is just a means of exchange and if you put out the right vibrations, It’s important to hold your visualization for as long as you can without any mental or emotional interruption: aim for at least half a minute several times a day, consistently, for a month or so.

Upgrade your beliefs

Many people also have a bottleneck of positive energy when it comes to money – usually rooted in beliefs of scarcity and unworthiness. But since money is nothing but a number and a means of exchange… do you believe in the scarcity of the things you would purchase with that money? Hmmm….. you don’t, do you?

Do you believe that you are not worthy of having food, shelter, nice things… well, there you might have a bit of trouble so I encourage you to have a chat – a long, deep chat – with your Higher Self and your angels and guides. They will steer you in the right direction of believing that you are a Divine being who IS – absolutely – worthy of what you desire.

Become a conscious creator!

You have, for the most part unconsciously, created a default existence based on your beliefs. There’s no reason why you can’t create an awesome life, using the proper techniques. All you need to do is take conscious control of manifesting instead of defaulting according to your old beliefs.

Create new beliefs, guide your thoughts, emotions and visualization; feel the delight of watching your imagination become reality; raise your vibration by being happy and loving, and watch your dreams come true!

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What is a Twin Flame?

Twin flames, also called twin souls, are literally the other half of our soul. We each have only one twin, and generally after being split the two went their separate ways, incarnating over and over to gather human experience before coming back together. Ideally, this happens in both of their last lifetimes on the planet so they can ascend together. 

So you probably haven't had many lifetimes with your twin. Each twin is a complete soul, not half a soul. It is their task to become more whole, balancing their female and male sides, and ideally become enlightened, before reuniting with their twin. This reunion is of two complete and whole beings. All other relationships through all our lives could be said to be "practice" for the twin, the ultimate relationship.

What is a Soulmate?

Soulmates are our soul family, the ones we do have many lifetimes and experiences with, who help us grow and evolve, create and dissipate karma. According to ancient wisdom, when the soul is "born" or descended from Source, it is created in a group. The souls in this group are our soulmates, ones who are very like us in frequency makeup. Then each of these souls is split into two, creating the twins.

A soulmate is someone you are close to at a soul level, and with whom you have had many shared experiences in different lifetimes, in various kinds of relationships -- siblings, parent-child, best friend, as well as romantic relationships. There is a deep love for each other, and a spiritual bond that sets them apart from the superficiality of most other people in your life. Conversations are generally deep, about personal growth and service to make the world a better place. We can have many soulmates in our lives, and they come to us to help us grow spiritually. Read more below 

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Have I Met My Twin? 

Twin Flame reunions are the most fulfilling relationships we can enter into as humans, on all levels. However, twin flame couples have been extremely rare on the planet, and for good reasons, which will be described later. Despite this, we are finding that more and more twins are finding each other now, because of the acceleration of spiritual transformation and opportunities for soul evolution we are all experiencing. People are evolving and learning and healing at such a fast rate that they are getting ready for their twins faster. What used to take lifetimes to learn and heal, people are now going through in years or even months. This is the astounding level of acceleration we and the planet are going through. 

When twins get together, it is for some kind of spiritual service work. This is their primary reason for finding each other, because through their union a huge birthing of creative energy is released, to be used for their mission together. More and more twins are attempting to get together now to help the planet and humanity make a big shift forward in consciousness. 

However, many of these attempts at reunion are unsuccessful because the individual people are not quite ready for the intensity of a twin flame union. It is more intense than any other union, and this intensity is at a soul level, not as much in the physical or even emotional bodies. This doesn't mean that there isn't a good attraction at those levels as well, but the strongest attraction is of spirit. This is one of the distinguishing characteristics of a twin soul. Many people think they have met their twin because the attraction is so intense, but it is a karmic attraction, one of need or bodily desire rather than the Divine Love of twins. 

Your chance of meeting and staying with your twin depends on how evolved your soul is, and how much of your baggage from this and past lives you have cleared. The biggest reason twins have to separate after coming together is their individual emotional baggage. Because in the presence of your twin, there can be nothing between you, nothing blocking your closeness. This means that everything comes up for healing that you haven't previously healed. Everything! 

When twins reunite, both of them experience an acceleration of their spiritual growth and awakening. They get on the fast track of learning about esoteric wisdom and experiencing other states of consciousness. They usually haven't been together all that often during their series of lives on the planet, and so their backgrounds may be different. Yet, there is a closeness and similarities of spirit that are almost uncanny, noticed in many ways, such as looking back at yourself when you look at your mate, and a remembering of the distant past when you first split up. Guidance is strong with these relationships, and usually one or both have a good channel for communication with Spirit. Their connection is telepathic, and hugging each other is like coming home for nourishment. 

 

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